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Nigerians have this bad attitude that annoys me, when they ask you about your relationship status and you tell them you’re single they start to look at you with pity as if you just told them your mum died and your house burnt. You could be a billionaire who just discovered the cure for cancer but once you’re single they see you as incomplete (because the bible and society said so, smh). They don’t care that if you date you’d be miserable, all they just want is HAVE A SPOUSE.
I’m not saying dating is bad neither am i trying to shame people who date, but we need to understand that being single can also be awesome and most people who are single can be happy. Now here are some No BS affirmation Y’all single birds need to remember
1. BEING SINGLE AIN’T A DISEASE
The way the online dating business and the media in general portrays single people it’s as though everyone must be in a relationship. Being single isn’t bad, wrong, sad, depressing, pathetic, or even a plague that should be eradicated. It’s simply a relationship status, and it doesn’t define you.
2. RELATIONSHIPS ARE QUITE HARD
If you think back to your past relationships, you can probably see just how difficult they were. I’m not saying all relationships are difficult all the time, but relationships definitely take work. It doesn’t take work to be single. So revel in that you don’t have the drama or nonsense that comes with arguing over whose turn it was to buy the damn toilet paper.
3. IF YOU WANTED TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU’D BE
This is very true. You could go out right now, pick up someone at cinema, DM on Instagram, and land yourself a partner immediately. However, the reason you don’t do that and the reason you’re currently single is because you have standards and you’re not going to settle. You’re better than that.
4. BEING SINGLE HELPS THE SOUL
Just when you think you can’t take being single any longer, stop and look at your life. Sure, you don’t have a partner, but what you do you have? You have a sense of self, you’re strong, you know what you want, and you’re totally self-reliant. These are extraordinary qualities to have, not just as a single person, but for when you’re in a relationship again, too.
5. IT TAKES TIME TO FIND THE RIGHT PERSON
While I’m personally against the whole concept of soulmates, I believe there are right and wrong people for us. If you’re single and dating, but totally bummed out that you haven’t met someone cool in so long that you feel like you’re losing your mind, fear not. It takes time to find someone who’s right for you. Once you realize that, you can’t quit stressing about being single and understand that it takes time.
6. YOU WONT BE SINGLE FOREVER (PROBABLY)
If I had a kobo for every time a female friend of mine cried into a glass of wine about how she’ll be single forever, I’d be a like Dangote. I’d also be an even richer man if I had made bets with them about it, because I’d be cashing in left and right. I won’t tell you there’s someone for everyone, because that’s an annoying cliché you don’t want to hear, but I will tell you that you won’t be single forever, so you should embrace it while you can.
